Interracial dating social aspects
I waffled on changing my name — it felt really difficult for me, like I was letting go of my Indian heritage.Ultimately I decided against it, and my husband was supportive of my decision.One way to begin, in the process of getting to know a new partner, is to maybe include some questions like, was the school you went to diverse, do you have diverse friends?Have you dated interracially before and if so, how did your family react?
We're so "old" according to our cultures, that our families were just thankful someone of the human race agreed to marry either of us, and we currently live in a diverse section of New York City where no one bats an eye at interracial couples.
” My husband and I were friends before we started dating, and we just organically ended up having these conversations.
At times, I was shocked at how little he ever thought about race before me, and that was something that worried me when I first started falling for him.
Prepare yourself for reactions that are unexpected or even upsetting, and accept that it may take some time for your family to come around. You’ll be sharing foods that may be new to your partner, translating your language for them during family gatherings and perhaps even teaching them some Racial Politics 101.
Sometimes, you’ll want to bang your head against the wall. “When your partner asks questions that may seem ignorant, they are accepting that they don’t understand everything,” said Fensterheim.